Speak from your heart, instead of from your head
It was exactly 6 years ago I got that advice.
Until that point I didn’t even know that there was a difference between the two because somewhere along the way, I had stopped letting my heart express itself.
I see this often with people who can’t handle their emotions and aren’t willing to cry.
They start rationalizing their feelings and talking logically about things that aren’t logical and can’t be processed by the mind in order to keep their emotions in check.
It comes off cold and callus.
When you don’t speak from your heart, other people can’t feel you.
They don’t know where you really stand.
They don’t feel your passion or see that you care.
They are confused about what is real.
They question your integrity.
And they keep their distance because you aren’t letting them in.
Since one of our basic human needs is connection, which comes from the heart, not letting the people we care about into our hearts is a recipe for disaster.
It will break you.
But when you start letting your heart express itself all of a sudden relationships become real.
People connect with you because they can feel you.
Forgiveness becomes easy.
Trust is extended.
An understanding between hearts forms.
reconciliation is possible
On the other side you find a richness of life that’s been missing.
And you feel whole.
Now I have to warn you about the uncomfortable side effects, because nobody warned me about these.
When you start to let your heart speak things can get a bit unpleasant.
Tears flow.
Lips quiver.
Voices crack.
All the things we tend to resist.
The tricky part is that our hearts hold all our feelings. Which means there can be a lot of pain that doesn’t always make sense and can’t easily be explained by the rational mind.
That’s what trips us up. We want things to make sense.
But your heart has wisdom far beyond your mind.
And trying to rationalize what is in your heart will make you crazy because your heart speaks differently than your mind.
Your heart speaks about what is real in this moment.
Your mind only speaks about what it already knows.
If we don’t let other humans into hearts and into our pain, we cannot connect on deeper levels.
Connection happens in our hearts.
We are wired to connect deeply with each other. That’s what makes life rich and fulfilling.
We have to be so brave to let others into our pain. This kind of courage is not for the weak.
This means we also have to be very brave when someone else lets us in, because this is a “goes both ways” kind of thing.
In these precious life changing moments, there can be no fixing, no minimizing, no speaking over top of one another, only super brave speaking, listening, and feeling.
What is in your heart that needs to be expressed?
In the end it will be these heart conversations that save us.
In this podcast episode we are talking all about why you need to speak from your heart and how to do it.
In this episode, we cover:
- The 5 steps to speaking from your heart
- The way you can connect deeper with the people you love
- The only 2 emotions that matter.
- How to communicate what is in your heart.
Tune in as I share those secrets with you.
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