I used to be paralyzed by perfectionism. Perfectionism is driven by a negative intention and comes from the wrong space.
At the time I wasn’t conscious about what was driving me, but I can see it now.
To me, being a “loser” meant I wouldn’t be accepted by others, I would be ostracized, and that ultimately would mean that I wasn’t going to be loved. There isn’t anything worse in this world than thinking you aren’t good enough to be worthy of being loved.
I didn’t want to be a “loser”, so I felt like I needed to be perfect. If I didn’t think I could measure up, do it perfectly, or be the best… I wouldn’t start. Some people will start, but they will pretend to be better than they are, or call others down to lift themselves up.
Negative intentions are driven by our Ego and they limit us. We end up hiding instead of taking risks, we get anxiety when our “not enough” gets triggered, and we spiral into dark places that don’t serve us.
Once I could see the negative feedback loop I was in I changed my definition of “loser”.
I don’t even know what a loser is anymore. Is there such a thing as a loser?
We are all trying our best and doing the best we can.
I have learned that a beginner is someone who is starting out, who doesn’t know what they are doing, and isn’t expected to know.
Being a beginner takes courage.
And courage is admirable.
When you start, don’t try to be perfect, just try to be better than you were… and if that means you are a little bit braver than you used to be, that is enough. You are a winner.