“We accuse others of what we are guilty of.”
I’m not sure who originally said these words but they are true.
In my classes and in my course we work a lot on triggers and mirrors. They are the best way to learn more about ourselves and our blind spots.
Blaming someone else for a behaviour is a pretty sure sign that you are the problem, not them.
When someone is blaming you ,or telling you who you are without permission and without the spirit of improvement, they are usually talking about themselves and directing it at you.
Don’t take it personally. Take it as an insight into who they are. Their words are saying more about them, than you.
And if you are the one doing the blaming, do some digging – you’ll probably learn something pretty valuable about yourself and heal an old wound in the process.