There is a difference between living in the future and creating your future. And it’s important.
Living in the future is stressful and based on the events of the past. You take the knowledge, experience, pain, and self limiting beliefs, and create a story (worry) about it for what’s coming in the future.
You keep playing it over and over in your head, building the story about how bad, or hard, or painful it’s going to be based on what you are “sure” is going to happen. (Interesting to note: quite often you will get a head cold from this behaviour).
Then as the story begins to unfold you are hyper sensitive and no matter what happens, you make it worse than it needs to be because you are so on edge from your own thoughts.
But when you make the switch to creating your future you can mood the outcome.
This is so much easier because it takes away the guilt, shame, and stress of the story we are telling.
But it is so much harder because it requires work, and discipline.
It requires ultimate trust in the unknown and what’s coming.
It forces you to let go of what you have already experienced, know, believe, assume, and expect about what’s to come.
And you have to stop your thoughts from the nosedive it is conditioned to taking when your trigger is hit.
It’s easy to spiral down… it takes grit and determination to stop it.
You can create the future you want.
But first you have to decide that you don’t want to keep repeating what’s already happened.