We don’t see our lives clearly when we are living in the mess.
We couldn’t possibly because we know too much and we are too emotionally invested.
You need to ask trusted outside people for perspective, but make sure not to muddy the water.
Give them the cliffs notes and the big picture, but not all of the details.
If you give them all of the details they will be sitting in the boat next to you instead of able to help.
What is really fun is to get quiet and then go back and watch the memory you have. In the memory you are younger, even if it’s only 6 months younger, it’s still younger.
Go and watch how you behaved, watch you facial expressions, and the way you interacted with the world.
If you don’t like it, give yourself a hug. You were no doubt doing the best you could.
Have a chat with your younger self. Tell her all of the things she needs to hear.
Then hug her.
She needs all of your hugs.
You can learn a lot about yourself by being an observer.
Take a moment and reflect… its a lot better than trying to make irrational and emotional decisions.