I always looked at people pleasing like brown nosing. In my mind people pleasers are doing things to keep the people around them happy, saying what other people wanted to hear, and being who they wanted you to be.
There have been times I have preached to others about being a people pleaser and how it wasn’t authentic.
Since I started being brave, I have noticed something about myself that I didn’t want to see.
I am a people pleaser after all, but not in the way I had defined it.
My way of keeping people happy is to do less and remain small.
I shrink to keep them happy and to not threaten them in anyway.
I don’t speak up and I try not to stand out because both cause conflict.
My mom had to force me to buy a pretty wedding dress because I wasn’t even looking at the picking pretty ones.
I did the same with my high school graduation dress.
I have been so surprised with the amount of support I have received on my new journey to be brave.
My life view was telling me I had to be small, but the support I have received has been so big.
Big and small at the same time.
This is just one more reason to live outside your comfort zone.