When I was a young girl, it seemed I would cry at the drop of a hat… If somebody else was crying, I would cry along with them. My tears would flow from fear, sadness, happiness, anger and pain.
As I grew into a young adult, things changed. I was accused of using my tears as a guilt tactic or as a childish form of persuasion when I didn’t “get my way”.
Instead of listening to how those words made my heart feel and honouring that. I quit crying. I didn’t want to be perceived as needy or weak. I wanted to be strong.
The only way to not cry, was to stop voicing the things that scared me, hurt my feelings, or upset me. I quit talking about things that might make me cry.
It has taken me a long time, and a lot of healing to figure out strength doesn’t come from holding back tears.
They say, tears are words the heart can’t say.
When we stifle our tears, we stifle our hearts.
Many times our hearts don’t say the same things our minds think it should. So you can’t talk your way out of heart work, or convince your heart of something different.
Everytime you let your heart speak, magic happens. It opens up pathways to love and connect deeper, and it makes life more rich and meaningful. All of which is totally worth the risk of a few tears.