If you give people an out, they are more likely to stay.
Although some people will take the out.
I used to be the person who took the “out”, and there were times I wouldn’t opt in if I didn’t see the out.
I was afraid. I didn’t see it that way though. We don’t like to admit our fears do we?
I was afraid I would be trapped if I didn’t opt out. My ego was stuck on being independent and strong and I wouldn’t ever allow a choice that appeared needy or dependent.
I didn’t want to be sucked down someone else’s rabbit hole, and I didn’t want to feel chained.
I tell a different story now because I’m not looking fo accolades, I’m looking for results.
Now when I’m given an “out”, it makes it easier to stay because the “out” validates the fact that I can move on when I’m ready.
We all want it to be our choice whether we stay or go.
And when it’s our choice to stay, we are so much happier to be there.
That’s why they say if you love something to set it free.