First you have to feel ok.
I didn’t know this and I was operating from survival mode. I was almost always at the end of my rope, in fight or flight mode, and completely maxed out. It was a full time job to keep my emotions in check.
Then I created some space in my life.
In that open space I learned real self care and how to fill my own bucket with forgiveness, compassion, and self love.
And I found peace inside myself.
You can’t find peace inside yourself by trying to control others and your external circumstances. Peace comes from digging into your emotions, understanding your triggers, and embracing your humanity.
When you get there you feel full inside. You aren’t needy, demanding or insecure. You can set boundaries, hold your ground, seek connection, and love others when it’s the last thing you feel like doing.
It’s a process and it starts by seeking inner peace. And just in case you’re wondering, inner peace is entirely possible, but it doesn’t happen overnight.