Life is always hard. Nobody gets a free ticket. We all are on the journey.
The person you’ve invested in or committed to that is causing you grief is likely a great person.
He’s likely doing the very best he can with the set of life skills he has. His life is just as hard as yours, and he’s navigating too.
So the fact that his life and his journey have him responding in a way that is affecting you… is about you. Not about him.
We have the agency to live our life in our own way.
You do. And so does he.
When you are on your own mountain and compassionate, you sense the difficulty he faces in his journey.
Whatever he’s doing is triggering you because that behaviour also lives in you.
You just don’t see it yet.
But once you do see that behaviour in yourself you can make a conscious choice about how you want to express it, and how you want to handle it.
That’s when you will see him differently. You will stop trying to persuade him, please him, and beg him to see you or treat you how you want, or hope that he will change. You will see his choices as part of who he is.
That’s when you get to decide if this is the kind of person you want to keep in your life.
That’s a life that feels like freedom.
That’s where we are heading…