I was a good kid. I was “coachable”… I tried hard and did what I was told, and never spoke up against anything. It worked well for me, I had a really great childhood and stayed out of trouble.
But I was scared to death to make someone angry because that wasn’t ok in our house, the consequences were huge.
Being coachable is touted as a good thing to be, and in many aspects it is. It means that you take instruction well, and aim to please another’s vision. You fit in well with society and you aren’t going to break any laws or disrupt anyone else.
As I grew up, the message started to change. It went from ‘follow all the rules and do what you’re told’… to ‘you can’t please everyone’.
It’s been hard to sort out what that means, but here is what I’ve learned.
If you are making life choices based on someone else’s plan… you won’t feel fulfilled.
If you make choices based on several other people’s plan… you won’t be consistent enough to get anywhere and still feel unfulfilled.
If you make choices based on what’s right for you… you will make some people unhappy and some people proud, but the majority of your time will be spent with a purposeful and fulfilled heart.
Here’s the thing… if you know yourself well enough to make conscious adult choices, and you understand your intention behind what you’re doing, and you’re doing the best you can with where you’re at… what other people think about it is none of your business.
Appreciate the people/person who supports you, they are gold and you will need them. If you don’t have any yet, keep going, they will show up I promise. Allow all of the others to deal with their judgements and opinions and criticisms on their own. They will eventually burn themselves out, (and might even switch back to your team).
We only have this life, this year, this day, and this moment to live.
Why are you living it for someone else?