People are not going to seek you out to be a friend. You have to do it.
Work is not going to seek you out. You have to find it.
Love is not going to fall in your lap. You have to be it.
Community doesn’t just happen, you have to contribute to it.
Life doesn’t become better on it own. You have to figure it out.
If you feel a bit needy, it’s because you have needs that are unmet. But those needs won’t be met by other people.
You have to do it.
We need love and connection and friendship and contribution and community… but once we have grown up, we need to create it for ourselves.
And if you don’t make a conscious effort to fulfill your own needs, life will have you situations that force you to sort it out.
And that’s painful, and it hurts, and it feels really hard.
But when you take responsibility for who you are, and the results you are getting – it changes the way you interact with life.
It changes how you react to life
And it puts you back in the drivers seat.