We want things.
We want to be liked by our people.
We want to belong.
We want to be seen.
We want to be loved.
There is a good reason for wanting those things. It’s in our make up and our wiring. Which means they are needs for us, not just desires.
But here’s the thing… until you have discovered that you genuinely like yourself, realized that you belong to yourself, allowed yourself to explore and see your true self inside, and ultimately love yourself and show compassion towards yourself, we won’t ever fully accept it from other people.
So when you feel a little bit empty and wanting someone else to fill you up or make it better, stop. That’s not going to help you nearly as much as finding it within yourself.
And once you do find it in yourself, you will recognize the other fulfilled and overflowing generous people, because you are one of them. Once you are full, you can give.
The best way to “get” love, is to give it away.
(Brene Brown speaks about it in this clip)