Compassion is one of the most beautiful traits in a person.
Compassionate people are full of love, and humility.
Brene Brown says that she found in her research that the most compassionate people are also the most boundaried.
I am a recovering codependent. I think most of us are in some way or another.
For me a large part of my codependency came from a lack of boundaries.
I had always struggled with boundaries. There were certain people in my life that ignored the boundaries I set.
Some people just don’t listen.
When I found people who respected my boundaries, I was setting them in such a strong way because I was so used to being unheard.
It was a struggle to figure out how to be compassionate and boundaried.
Eventually I learned that when I was hanging with the right people, setting a boundary was no big deal. I just needed to keep in touch with what I was ok with, or not ok with and speak that truth.
As I watch other people struggle with this same thing I see ego coming into play.
It was a surprise to me to see that people without boundaries struggle with ego. I used to see these people as kind, but they become angry, indignant, and almost mean when they feel threatened.
When you have clear boundaries you rarely feel threatened… and that’s how you become “the most” compassionate.
Boundaries keep your heart safe and when your heart is safe you have the space to open it up and live with peace inside of it.
Boundaries are a small thing that are a big deal.