Sometimes helping someone helps… Sometimes helping makes it worse.
How do you determine if you are helping or only enabling?
If someone is searching high and low for answers, they will be consumed by it, and if you are lucky you can help turn on a light for them. This would be helping.
You have become the enabler…
If you are thinking about their problem more than them…
If you are the one bringing it up in conversation…
If you are reading and suggesting things for them to read…
If you are talking about it all the time…
Your help isn’t helping anymore, and likely your enabling is making the situation worse.
It’s ok to help someone out of the mud, but first, you must determine if they are actually stuck….or if they are wallowing in it.