My flight was the last one out and it was cancelled. I wasn’t going to be able to leave until the next day.
I knew one person on the flight with me, he had been attending the same business meeting, and another person I had sat beside on the way down. They both are much more experienced travellers than I am.
The person I knew is a few years older, he flies first class, owns a helicopter, 2 businesses and holidays for 3 weeks over Christmas in posh resorts on white sand beaches.
When our flight got cancelled he walked away and said “see ya tomorrow”, before we even knew what was going on yet… I was still trying to find out what flight I would be on the next day.
The person I sat beside on the way down took me under his wing. He booked me a room where he was staying, found us the shuttle to the hotel and offered me an extra Tshirt to wear because my bag was on the plane and his was a carry on. The next morning he got me back to the airport and had breakfast with me.
I would have been fine. I would have found my way and eventually made it home. I am completely capable.
But one thing I know for sure now is when someone takes a few extra moments to help a stranger out, there is some grace involved.
He took a night that could have been miserable for me and made it memorable, just by including me in his plans.
If you ever think the small things don’t make a difference… just be the guy alone in a strange city with a cancelled flight and nowhere to go until the next day.
Kindness makes all of the difference in the world.
I have been involved in a lot of conversations lately about telling our story by standing in our truth around our struggles, failures and mistakes.
These narratives when left in our head, eat away at our worthiness and constantly run a program in the back of our minds that we either buy into or overcompensate for… or both.
Left unspoken and unhealed we inevitably build our lives around avoiding the story and that pattern to avoid the pain and shame that comes with repeating it again. That’s when the story owns us.
Do you have untold stories, narratives or beliefs about yourself that you have pushed down and away that you have vowed to never talk about ?
What would it take for you to tell that story?
What would it take to fully own your story of how you got to where you are now, even at the deepest level?
What if you could believe that by sharing with the right people in the right way that you would feel more loved, accepted and understood?
If you knew you could heal the pain you work to avoid and live a richer, fuller, more connected life, would you find someone to tell?
If you knew that sharing your story could help someone else with a similar story know they aren’t alone, would you tell?
When we tell our story, we own it. This sounds terrifying, but it is liberating.
When the story owns us it has the control. It keeps us imprisoned behind shame, guilt and grief.
But when we own our story. When we say this is who I am and why… then we take the power back and can release the shame, guilt and grief and the control they have over us.
I believe it was Wayne Dyer that said when an idea is forming it’s important to keep all interested parties up to speed.
In the past when I had idea, no matter how good it was, it seemed I was met with resistance on the other side. I would take it personally and give up easily. I didn’t push for anything because it would only bring up a fight. When they finally accepted it I would be angry because they had resisted it so strongly in the beginning.
I found Wayne Dyers advice helpful. It’s way easier to throw out an idea, plant the seed, and water it enough times to see it grow.
After I did this enough times I learned my ideas weren’t actually mine or a reflection of me, they were just inspiration I drew out of thin air. Maybe they would work or maybe they wouldn’t and I was no longer personally attached to them.
I started to see that the resistance I felt from others was their resistance to life, to change, and to new ideas. It was a reflection of them, not of me.
This changed everything. Once I realized this it became fun to throw out an idea and watch them squirm and struggle with it, and I would have a mini celebration when they finally came through their resistance.
Mom has quoted Wayne Dyer for years, “when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change”. Turns out that Wayne and mom were right. And this way is a lot more fun.
If you text me and ask me what’s on my mind, I will explain everything in detail and send you a novel in return.
If you approach a subject relating to fear, vulnerability, your heart, or relationships I will do a philosophical deep dive into the meaning behind them.
If you are searching for clarity but aren’t telling yourself the truth, I will be your blunt best friend.
It’s possible to have 2 or 3 conversations happening with me at the same time because I always feel like I have a lot of ground to cover.
It’s probably best not to ask me a question you don’t really want to know the answer to, because I am likely to answer it without mincing words.
If you want to solve the worlds problems, call me up because I love problem solving.
Showing this side of me openly is a new thing for me. Somehow somewhere in life I learned that this part of me was too much for other people, and so I’ve kept it a secret world inside of me. Once in a while it would pop up around people who knew me well but even then I would express it carefully.
As I’ve started showing up for life more, I’ve also been trying to allow these parts of myself to show up too, which has become a journey of its own.
Its an area where I am still sensitive to other people’s reactions. The smallest comment has me apologizing and backtracking. This has become funny for me to watch as I blurt out this passionate and somewhat insecure side of me, and then apologize and retreat back into my shell, only to pop my head back out in another attempt later in the conversation.
I’ve had some pretty good sports to practice with, and as I apologize they will usually ask why I am saying sorry. My explanations have made no sense to anyone, not even myself. I’m now trying to stop apologizing for being me. Sometimes it’s hard.
Do you have a secret self?
If you had asked me 5 years ago about my secret self I would have told you I didn’t have one. I would have thought you were a bit crazy for even asking, and I might have felt sorry for you for having one because I was “totally authentic. What you see is what you get.”
This self was a secret even to me. I had squashed down and pushed back this part of me for so long I didn’t even acknowledge it or develop it.
So if you are feeling sorry for me, you don’t need to (I’ve already apologized too many times for it), but I would encourage you to stay open to the idea that maybe you have a secret self that also wants to be expressed.
Carl Jung said “The privilege of a lifetime is to figure out who you really are” and if we can find a way to unapologetically be that self, wouldn’t that be a beautiful thing?
I had big plans for 2020, but it had bigger plan for me.
At this time last year I had released my first online course – a goal I had for several years – and I was telling you I was going to start a podcast.
My plans for 2020:
I was going to refine the course i had built and offer it again at least 2 more times through the year.
That didn’t happen because of a few minor derailments.
This is what happened instead:
I ended up in court in February with my in-laws and we all were a part of a major historic event in March. The pandemic hit North America and school (and everything else) was cancelled and my kids were home.
April I spent adjusting and trying to get my bearings. I was a bit stunned about what was happening.
In May my son got a sore throat and although he tested negative we were home for a week and the next week I had my in-laws surprise me by camping out in my yard.
June brought graduation for my son which was put on by some beautiful and generous friends. Although this grad class doesn’t know it – their grad was better and classier than any normal graduation ceremony.
July was filled with dentist appointments which should have been easy. But one dentist appointment went haywire and my daughters left side of her face was paralyzed. Turns out it was Bells Palsy. It took a few weeks and her face was back to normal.
August brought on major burnout and one Tuesday morning I told my daughter to pack up and we left the next day to get away. We went to BC for two weeks. It took ten days to unwind and enjoy myself but the last 4 days were awesome.
In September I sent my daughter back to school with major anxiety and quit my job after 10 years in the family business. My son moved out and in with a friend.
In October I quit blogging everyday and slept and cried a lot. I started a new job that lasted 2 weeks before the founders pulled the plug and shut the whole thing down.
November I spent riding horses 6 days a week with my mom. I started drafting an idea for an app and built a prototype in a database. I also started 2 new online classes, one in marketing and one on copywriting. Both of which will bring changes around here in the new year.
I started to get excited about my future even though it’s still uncertain.
In December we had lockdowns and they closed the high schools. My daughter was back home again. Christmas was quiet but lovely and yesterday I signed the final papers for my divorce – almost 8 years after we separated.
And here we are on the last day.
My lessons from this year:
My biggest lesson was to stop believing myself and start believing IN myself.
I stopped believing in what IS and I started believing in what could be.
I stopped believing the stories, evidence, signs, and narrative in my head.
I stopped listening to the ranting, and the fear, and the limits I placed on myself.
I stopped believing the voice, and the evidence no matter what I was seeing, hearing or smelling.
I started noticing almost nothing I thought was real actually was real.
I believed in myself. I believed I was enough and I started to lean into and stand up for the value I bring with me. This gave me so much new confidence.
I also learned the value of ownership. Owning instead of renting, owning your role in conflict, owning your emotions and triggers, and owning your life.
And I learned that when you create something with the intention of offering enough value that they will miss you when you’re gone. They actually miss you when you’re gone. I loved this lesson.
What can you learn from my year?
Add value wherever you go. Value could mean wisdom, skills, knowledge, wins, hints, tips, physical labour, insights, or feedback.
Keep moving forward and believing things will be ok even when all of the signs are showing you destruction and devastation.
Don’t believe everything you see.
Life is tough but you’re tougher.
There is always a way, but you probably won’t recognize it when it hits. Stay open to opportunities that don’t present as opportunities.
Courage is summoned from the inside but it’s not only about you. A lot of courage comes from having the right people around you supporting you.
My favourite books from 2020
Shoe Dog – Phil Knights story about building Nike. Not only a business book, but a book about risk taking, sports, and overcoming adversity.
City of Girls – Elizabeth Gilbert’s latest book. Not for kids or I would have given it to my daughter to read. This was a delightful and fun story with some history from NYC. (This book shared wisdom that helped me this year)
I also enjoyed reading and would recommend, but only if it fits your interests:
There are always at least two sides to ever debate.
I have tried really hard to see both sides of the Covid debates on restrictions, masks and political decisions being made.
I am not going to lie, it is almost impossible to see the other side.
The beliefs on each side are very strong. And you really can not change another persons beliefs by forcing your own upon them.
Webster dictionary defines belief as: ” conviction of the truth of some statement or the reality of some being or phenomenon especially when based on examination of evidence “.
There is evidence of your beliefs no matter what they are, and they were probably formed as a survival mechanism during a traumatic event.
The beliefs surrounding the issues today are deep seated and rooted in fear. They are primal beliefs that are important for all of us to come to terms with in our way and they are fueling the opinions of all of us.
And those very real fears that are driving our beliefs and opinions are also what are driving us apart.
I have several theories around all of this and why it might be happening that I won’t get into today, but suffice it to say we are being asked to rise.
We are being asked at a deeper level to understand each other, and in order to do that we need to use empathy.
Empathy is not an easy skill.
You can’t fly by the seat of your pants with it, and when your deepest fears and beliefs are being challenged, it takes enormous amounts of emotional labour and hard work to see the other side.
Why won’t people wear masks right now? Why do people wear masks right now?
I know my answer to those questions, but what is the other side?
Where can we come together?
Empathy.
Empathy is where we connect to the feelings to those on the other side. Sounds easy right? It’s not. And it has kept me very humble for years trying to practice empathy.
2020 has been a masterclass for all of us.
We can easily connect to feelings of joy, love, and peace because we soak them up when we feel them.
It is much harder to connect to feelings of fear, shame, pride, ego, revenge… we just don’t see ourselves in this light.
And, these feelings are painful. Not only do we run from them, we work really hard to avoid them, forget them, and block them out.
If you can’t see those feelings in yourself, you don’t have a hope of connecting to those feelings in others.
And so our society is separated. You are on one side or the other right now, and your friends on Facebook are posting things that you don’t agree with.
How do we use empathy right now?
We need to understand the fear that everyone is feeling. The fear feels and acts the same in all of us.
Yes we have different beliefs, opinions, and stories that are fueling that fear, but fear feels and acts the same way for everyone.
The fears arising right now are big ones (all fear feels big because the fear center in our brain is wired for survival. When we feel fear we automatically respond to it like its life or death. Do you see this in yourself? Pay attention, because it is true for all of us.)
Right now everyone is deeply afraid of losing something.
Some people are genuinely afraid of dying from Covid-19. This is primal. We are wired for survival.
Others aren’t afraid of dying themselves, but they are afraid of losing someone who they love and who loves them. This is also primal. We are community animals and need love.
Others are afraid of losing jobs or economic status which provide them with basic needs that are necessary for survival.
And others yet are afraid of losing their freedom. This answer from Quora explains freedom this way “We value freedom. It delivers us great happiness, prosperity, and utility. It makes us feel like entities worthy of respect, and like masters of our own destiny rather than slaves to another’s will. Captivity is abusive to our nature. Freedom is natural.”
These fears are real, and they are not completely rational when they are in the drivers seat.
We must learn how to manage fear.
We must learn that we have agency over our lives.
We must open our hearts and practice empathy.
Until we can all learn how our fear responses work, what the real threats are, how to take control of our own lives no matter what the environment is, and that we are in control of our health, our finances, and ultimately our own destiny… there will always be separation amongst us.
We are being asked to rise.
P.S. In the first 30 seconds of this video, Dr. Christianne Northrup talks about the COVID-19 vaccine and which chromosones it affects (spoiler: it will remove human empathy).
I can feel it in the air, so many people have been searching for the perfect gift for the people they love, my Facebook feed is starting to fill up with posts of gratitude, everyone is on the move, and taking time off work to see the people they love in person.
There are others who are reacting strongly to all of that love in the air.
Some aren’t able to be with the people they love, they haven’t yet found their people, or the people who they are with are distant, emotionally unavailable, or fun squashers… all of the love in the air stings, because they feel it too and they dread Christmas.
Some are silently suffering because their bodies are somewhere and their hearts are elsewhere.
I’ve spent Christmas’s on both sides of the fence.
Todays blog is a simple reminder that if you are lucky enough to be caught up in all of the love, be grateful and love your people hard…soak in the moments, capture all of the photographs in your mind, and let the love blast from your heart like a care bear stare.
If you are hurting and reacting to all of the love you see but can’t participate in, then by all means you have every right to feel sad, depressed, angry and maybe even a little bitter. Have a good solid ugly cry, and then fight for the light.
Force yourself to find a silver lining. Dig hard for any small thing you can be grateful for, even if it’s just the air you breathe. Search hard for any evidence of kindness and goodness you have been witness to and cling to every moment of grace.
May you all make the most of whatever this season has to offer you.
Every once in awhile I like to share what I’m up to. There are so many choices in our world today that if we don’t talk about the good stuff, our favourite people will never find it or get a chance to experience it too. I would love for you to share what’s going on in your world with me.
What I’m reading: The Speed of Trust by Stephen Covey, this book was recommended to me by one of my mentors Dan Duckering. I’m only half way through but thoroughly enjoying it. Trust is an often over looked asset, and I like the high level playing field where it operates.
What I’m Doing: I’m taking the Bootstrappers Workshop from Seth Godin. Like any Seth Godin education it’s intense. I hope it changes me as much as the Marketing Seminar did.
What I’m Excited To Tell Others: Brene Brown has recorded Daring Greatly and you can buy it at Audible. This book has changed so many people’s lives. If you aren’t a reader you can now listen to her voice read it to you while driving, flying, exercising, or riding your horse. This is awesome.
Recent Purchase That Has Changed My Life: I had a hair mineral analysis taken in July. It measures mineral ratios, toxic metals, and deficiencies in your body. Our bodies are self healing mechanisms, but when they don’t have the proper nutrients, or they are impaired, they can’t do their jobs and we get sick. I heard Tony Robbins talk about his mercury poisoning a couple of years ago and I’ve been searching for a way to have my toxic metals tested ever since. It’s not easy to find, so when I found this one I jumped at it. Not only does this lady test you, but she then gives you a list of the supplements you should be taking to get yourself sorted out. The change in my health in 6 weeks by following her protocol is astounding, and I’m not back to full health yet. I’ve lost weight, the aching in body is gone, my head is clear, and most importantly I have energy again. You can email her to get the information to have the test done. If you would like to hear Tony Robbins talk briefly about it, go to this link and listen from 16:00 – 19:00
Quote I’m Pondering: “The lesson here is that the stronger your egoic personality manifests, the more the probability that you believe that other people or other things are the real source of all the problems in your life. As this ego relaxes from these delusions, it becomes more and more obvious that the problem has always been with you and the structures of your ego. Dissolve them and each time a little bit of liberation becomes possible.” – Eckhart Tolle
Every once in a while I like to share some of my favourite things or what is going on in my world, and since it’s been a while since my last one, I thought maybe it was time again.
Who I’m Following: The Tarot Lady! On her website she has free resources and she puts up yearly and monthly astrological forecasts, on her Facebook page she pulls a daily tarot card. Shes fun and a very high percentage of what she forecasts is shockingly accurate. Follow her and see for yourself (she’s on Twitter and Instagram too)
What I’m grateful for: Good people. I set out on a journey to start surrounding myself with “the doers and the dreamers” and I can assure you that this is nothing short of amazing. Being around people who love life and are building, connecting and contributing is so inspiring and it changes your life.
What I’m Listening To: I have 2 new favourite podcasts. Oprah’s is one of them (bet you didn’t see that coming) and Masters of Scale with Reid Hoffman is the other. Masters of Scale has short and sweet version and an uncut version of each interview. Great business information but also super interesting people. I really loved Brian Chesky from Airbnb. If you aren’t listening to podcasts while you drive (or knit), you are missing out…it’s a whole world of fascination.
What I’m up to: I am an idea machine right now and I’m starting to connect the dots on what the next right thing is. The course is coming along but it is still changing size and shape…please sign up to my private email list below to stay in the loop. I have another project marinating in my mind and will hopefully make an announcement about it soon.
My Latest Act Of Bravery: When my friend Scott Perry, the Stoic Creative, put out an invitation to be interviewed on his podcast. That happened live on Facebook yesterday. We had some technical difficulties and we are going to redo it later this month, but if you want to watch the glitchy uncut very first interview I’ve ever done, you can do so here.
Quote I’m Pondering: “And when great souls die, after a period peace blooms, slowly and always irregularly. Spaces fill with a kind of soothing electric vibration. Our senses, restored, never to be the same, whisper to us. They existed. They existed. We can be. Be and be better. For they existed.” – excerpt from the poem, When Great Trees Fall by Maya Angelou
I would love to hear from you, please share what you’re up to, your project, something you love, or your comments about what I’ve shared! Remember, sharing is caring❤️
There has once again been a lot of talk around empathy in my circles.
I’m beginning to love this subject, there are so many layers, angles and levels to it.
I have always found it quite easy to pick up another persons feelings when I walk in the room.
As an extra sensitive individual, it was something I started doing quite young so I could gauge every situation.
But to see myself in another persons shoes, especially someone who is angry or irrational, or someone who has a completely different worldview from mine is a lot trickier.
I came across this in my reading recently…
“The key reason for every argument: You can see how you feel but don’t see how you act. You can see how the other person acts but don’t see how they feel.” – Kyle Cease
It’s profound.
When we get upset, how we act is typically not in accordance to how we really feel.
It’s much easier to be angry than it is to be honest about what scares you.
It takes guts to be vulnerable.
It takes guts to say, “when I saw you talking to her it made me feel inferior”, or “I’m scared that I’m not good enough to pull this project together”.
It’s easy to see the way someone else is acting, especially when they are yelling and irrational, but that kind of behaviour makes it hard to see how they really feel.
Angry people are the most fearful.
When someone is ranting and raving like a lunatic it’s really hard to see their fear… and they certainly aren’t going to admit it.
Being able to put yourself in their shoes takes away the resistance.
It helps you to validate them so they don’t have to keep trying to prove their point to you and it helps diffuse the situation.
The next time things start heating up, try to imagine what the other person is feeling instead of focusing on how they are acting, and see how things change.
It’s not easy to set your ego aside, but it will probably be worth it.
I recently read a book by the Arbinger Institute called Leadership and Self Deception. It’s not a book I would have picked up on my own but it came highly recommended to me by a well respected friend.
One of the major takeaways I had from the book was to listen to the little voice inside of me to do “the thing”. The little voice might be telling me to speak up, to lend a hand, to extend kindness, to reach out to someone, or any number of things. Whatever it is, when the idea pops into your awareness you act on it.
That part is simple and we all know to be kind, to listen to the voice, and to act rather than stand back. The difference in this book was the point being made was about the damage we do in the moments after we choose to not do the thing. The moment when we betray ourself.
When we don’t act we fall into self-deception and we inflate others faults, inflate our own virtue, inflate the value of things that justify our self-betrayal, and blame others. (Technical terms from the book). Basically we start telling stories to ourselves about why we are superior and consequently make it ok to not be our best, most generous self.
I’ve been playing with this over the last few weeks since I finished the book. I’ve probably missed some moments because you need to be very aware of your self talk in order to catch the moment, but I’ve also caught a few.
Usually when the idea pops up I catch myself debating what I’m going to do with it. Immediately I start to justify why I wouldn’t do it, and that’s where I’ve been noticing what’s happening. At that moment I have been choosing to stop justifying and start planning how to execute. Ego in check, vulnerability at the fore front, and generosity on my mind I have been doing “the thing”.
I haven’t had one regret. It turns out that when I speak up and say things others were already thinking it’s appreciated and the words might have otherwise gone unsaid. I have walked up to chat with someone I didn’t know and received a note in return about how doing so “made their day”.
Our true self speaks to us first, and our true self operates in a higher level of consciousness than our minds do. In the split second between the idea and debate we lower our consciousness and decision making to that of our mind. But when we listen to the very first inkling we are tapping into the wisdom of our true self, the one that comes from a place of love and helps us be a better human.
What other people say about you is not about you, it’s about them.
If they think your talented, handsome, intelligent, or cute it’s either they recognize those things in you because they can see it in themselves.
If they think that you are bad things, it’s most often because they haven’t admitted to themselves how they are exactly what they are accusing you of being (this one sucks when you catch yourself accusing others).
And because what other people say about you is not about you, the only validation you need is from yourself.
Getting your self worth caught up in looking for approval outside of yourself from others is pointless because it only tells you about them.
Being caught up in other people’s disapproval of you isn’t helpful either, because it’s also not about you.
All you can do is keep focussed on your work. What matters to you? What can you do about it? How can you do better?
Accept people as they are. This so much easier said than done.
I have spent a large majority of my adult life waiting for someone to “get it” or to see what I see. I have talked circles explaining why, setting boundaries, defining limits, and hoping for change.
After I spend years and exhaust myself, I remember… change is really hard and I am not the boss of all of the people.
I am only the boss of myself (and even that only happens some of the time).
All I can do is decide to accept the people as they are, which isn’t always the same as who they tell me they are, and adjust my plans accordingly.
We so often hold ourselves back by what other people will think.
She will be furious if I do that or he will be all over me if I do that. Lots of time the voices in our head stem from words another person has spoke.
They trap us and we remain stuck because of them.
When we really start to evaluate the validity of those voices… we quite often find the story doesn’t line up and doesn’t make sense.
Then we can release it and move on.
One way to short cut that work, is to give yourself permission to do what is right for you… no matter what those voices have said to you in the past.
Just for today (and hopefully for all days) let’s give ourselves permission to do what we want, what excites us, what feels good, and what will take us in the direction of our vision of the future.
Lets surpass the voices, what other people will think, the criticism, the judgments, and everything that’s holding us back from loving the life you dream of, and take the next step anyway.
If there was something covid taught us it’s that we don’t like too much uncertainty in our lives.
A little bit is good because if everything is predictable we get bored… but it doesn’t take long to tip the scale and be too much.
No matter what else is happening in our life and no matter how much we want what is happening… everything becomes overshadowed if there is too much uncertainty.
And then we start to become resistant to life.
And while we are resistant to life, we don’t realize we have almost everything we want. Its all hidden by the uncertainty we are feeling.
In order to combat this it’s good to take inventory of the things in your life that you have and want.
You will find that almost everything you have, you want to have.
Say yes to all of those things.
Open your heart and yes to life.
Say out loud, I want this over and over until you feel your energy start to shift.
The energy of yes is so much lighter, willing, and accepting than the energy of no.
Want the life you have and want the things you have in your life and the life force will begin to flow through you.
In A New Earth, Eckhart Tolle tells a story about someone on the train talking out loud to themselves and how everyone thought they were crazy.
I’ve thought the same, I will put my head down and walk a little faster if I am coming up on someone on the sidewalk having a conversation with themselves.
I can be so scared of people, sometimes they really freak me out.
Later, in a moment of clarity Eckhart realized that we are all incessantly talking to ourselves…only the majority of us don’t say it out loud, we keep it in our heads.
Truth.
There is always an element of sameness and connectedness between us.
I’m the same person in my head, that freaks me out on the street and I can be very believable.
The inner ranting and the stories I quietly tell myself can really spiral me down into some ugly places… the places that justify my anger or outrage, put me into victim mode, sabotage my relationships, hurt the people I love and keep me from moving forward on my own path.
It’s these stories that cause the most problems in my life, because it’s my stories that are turning ‘what already is’ into a problem and keeping me from acceptance…the place where all healing begins and ends.
As I’m learning to recognize the signs of when this story telling mechanism in my head turns on, I can see it is always coming from a focus on myself, me and I. Almost every thought has a “how can you do this to me” feel to it.
I first really started to notice this in December and wrote a blog post about it. As I have paid more attention, I have been able to start to let go of my inner lunatic and not believe everything I tell myself.
This is life changing.
The moment I take the focus of my thoughts off of me, myself or I… and let the past be in the past… I can get on with living my best life.
We are emotional creatures. And our emotions are part of what makes life interesting, especially when we get the high frequency ones like love and joy. There is nothing better than getting lost in bliss and losing all track of time.
When you see the big picture you know that everything is going to be ok.
Our trials are hard, the obstacles are large, and our lives seem important… but in the big picture and the grand scheme of life… it’s always going to be ok.
When you have experienced enough life that you see how all things come to pass you are able to remain neutral in the face of hard lessons.
And neutral is a wonderful place to be because you are in charge of how you feel.
When you are in charge of how you feel you can choose peace, love, and joy instead of pain, suffering, and regret.
