It’s all fine and dandy to be tough and say that we don’t care what others think of us… but it’s never easy to find out someone doesn’t really like you.
There have been people all throughout my life who didn’t like me. I was bullied in junior high, I was told I was too happy and I’ve been called spinny.
Those people didn’t like me and I never knew why.
As an adult, I usually know why I’m not liked now. And the list of people seems to be bigger than ever.
Since I’ve stopped taking responsibility for other people’s feelings, and started speaking up for what I think is right – there has been some backlash.
There was a time the backlash would have broke me. I would have been sick to my stomach and back peddling and trying to make things better.
I don’t like conflict.
But I understand that when others don’t like me now, it’s not actually because of me.
They don’t like me because of a mirror that I unknowingly am holding up for them.
And that’s just how it works.
We all have to be responsible for ourselves, our emotions, and our journey. And we can’t be everything to everyone on the way.
The more we embrace this, the healthier our relationships will be.