Stop taking things so personally.
It’s not about you.
The words that other people use, the way they “make conversation”, and the way they speak to you is a window into who they are.
Listen from this space snd believe them.
Do they take the things you say personally?
Do they expect you to make them happy by doing as they say?
Do they make everything about them, even when you are talking about you?
None of this is about you.
You aren’t doing anything wrong.
They are showing you who they are, what’s important to them, and how they see the world. And it’s not you.
Their energy is strong and they will pull you into it and before you know it both of you will be defensive and taking things personally.
You can break that cycle, but you have to understand it’s not about you, even when it feels personal. It’s still not about you.
When you see people this way, there are no surprises. You get insights into their character every single time they open their mouth.
It’s when you see others through your lens, and make it about you that you misread someone.
You might be wondering which part is about you. You might know deep down there are two sides and that you’re playing a role in it.
It’s true. You do have a role.
Pay attention to how you feel. That’s your part.
Own your triggers – they are showing you places you haven’t healed.
Own your reactions, they are showing you what you care about.
Own your thoughts, they are showing you what you believe.
But don’t own another persons triggers, reactions and thoughts. Those are about them.
Merry Christmas!