Hurt people hurt people.
I repeat this to myself over and over as someone who is hurting attacks and blames someone I love for something they don’t understand.
I would love to rant and vent and tell you the whole story, but that’s not helpful.
Whats helpful is to learn from it.
It’s helpful to see how destructive attacking and blaming can be to a relationship and to an open heart.
It’s helpful to honour the power that words have and to always remember to choose my own very carefully.
It’s helpful to investigate the ways I am hurting and blaming someone for it, and search for a proactive and vulnerable way to communicate how I’m hurting.
While I know it’s not helpful to attack back, there is a large part of me that wants to.
I believe love wins, but in the heat of the moment it’s hard to remember how to do that.
So I keep repeating…hurt people hurt people… and I don’t allow myself to fall into the trap of reacting based on instinct and attacking and defending accusations that aren’t true.
How does love win here?
That’s the answer we need to find to keep our own hearts open.