Our path is never clear.
I have been asked several times how I knew the time was right for my husband and I to split.
I didn’t know.
There wasn’t an obvious choice to me, even though now in hindsight, it looks obvious.
I was never 100% sure, and even though I love my life so much now, sometimes I would still find myself wishing it could have worked.
It took years of living the way we were to get to the point where I just didn’t want to spend my life living like that anymore.
It wasn’t about him.
I was 36, and had already spent 15 years of living that way, another 15 years of it and I would be over 50. 15 years is a long time, and there hadn’t been enough change to satisfy me… we weren’t moving forward, we were just spinning in circles.
I knew because of the kids, once we made this final decision, there could be no turning back, I wasn’t going to put them through this more than once.
That decision was a blessing in disguise, I was filled with a lot of uncertainty and the next years were really hard, but I knew I had to move forward and make it work anyway.
Whether it’s your career, your home, your religion, your marriage or a friendship…I don’t think you ever fully know when it’s time to choose a different direction.
But you will most definitely know when the one you’re on is holding you back.
And then you have to ask yourself, why don’t I want to move forward to live my best life possible?