I had the freedom to meet a couple of people for coffee this weekend, which doesn’t happen very often.
Both of whom were brave enough to approach me in the beginning.
Both of whom, I very much enjoy their company and am so happy they made the first contact.
I would not have approached them to be friends. Not because I didn’t like them, but because I would have met them, liked them and went on my way…just like with that super cute guy at the grocery store I never talked to.
One of these new friends approached me at Costco originally, and the other approached me at an event I attended.
Thankfully they were brave enough to do the pursuing.
In middle school I remember feeling rejected by someone. I can’t remember their face or name, but whoever it was, snubbed me when I wanted to be their friend, and I have carried that fear of rejection with me ever since.
I hear from so many people how hard it is to make friends at this stage in the game, and it’s been true for me also outside of befriending someone at my kids activities.
Now that I better understand the value and the power of connections, I think I should make an effort to make new connections on a continual basis.
The world is filled with people and maybe lots of them want a new friend.
Isn’t it silly that I’m not approaching them because I’m just carrying around dumb middle school insecurities at age 40?
I started this year with the intention to be brave, this seems like a great new way to practice it.
Coffee anyone?