We are not drums. We don’t not make music when we beat ourselves up. We become stationary, paralyzed, and stuck. And we hide because of the story we tell ourselves.
You might beat yourself up for the way you think. You might be hard on yourself because you aren’t logical enough, or because you are too logical and forget that love also matters. Maybe you’re too dreamy, or maybe your thinking is too rigid.
Spinning around in this thought pattern is pointless. It doesn’t help you find a solution or make a change, and it’s bred from comparing yourself to others and trying to please someone outside of yourself.
The alternative is to become more of what you already are. Lean into your uniqueness until you are emanating it from every cell in your body. If you still think you’re missing the other side then partner with someone who you think encompasses the ideals you’re searching for.
2 things might happen.
You will learn how they think close up, and you can decide if you really want to be more like that… it’s quite possible you don’t.
Or you will become like them just because of your close proximity, they will help you see things differently.
Don’t beat yourself up, you aren’t going anywhere when you spin in circles.