In the online marketing seminar I’m currently taking, I’m a rookie.
I’m trying hard to keep up, to learn as much as I can, and soak in as much as I can, but when I dig into the threads with the other participants it’s clear they are understanding concepts on a deeper level than I am.
We are encouraged to speak up, to help each other and to ask questions in the threads.
I would go into the threads and immediately feel like everyone was working through the material more easily.
It was bringing up all sorts of feelings of insecurity and inadequacy in me.
After 6 weeks of this, I finally spoke up.
I asked a question, and received a “me too” from someone else.
I offered my point of view in the forum and someone thought deeply about what I had said.
And then it happened again.
And again.
And even though I feel like I don’t really know what I’m talking about, my thoughts and contributions are appreciated.
When we make assumptions about our status based on what we see in others, we usually lose.
“Those two are always holding hands and smiling, nobody loves me like that.”
“He understands this concept so well, I can’t help him because he knows more than me.”
“He’s got it all together, he wouldn’t talk to me if he knew what I’ve done.”
It’s possible our assumptions of others are true.
But it’s more likely that we don’t know the whole story, and if we hide behind our assumptions, we can’t move forward.
What if we assumed that we are always making assumptions?
How much would life open up to us if we took one step after another, knowing what we assume is merely an assumption, but not necessarily the truth?
What does it matter if what we assumed was right all along?