I appreciate the lessons adversity brings. I don’t love adversity or conflict, but I have discovered that these are the times I am being asked to rise.
I made the decision to live my life with as much love and compassion as I know how to do. I am constantly striving for alignment with my highest self. Doing so adds several levels of complexity and degrees of emotional intelligence when adversity strikes. I no longer allow myself to react, but I also strive to stay open and coming from a place of love.
I remember wondering how I would continue to be challenged when our marriage came to an end. Its been seven years (to this day), and the journey has been rewarding.
Divorce is not for the faint of heart. It is becoming more the norm than the exception. My kids classes are about 50% of each. And although it’s a painful journey for everyone, I would never talk someone out of it.
Leaning into the process and allowing yourself to evolve through it is an extraordinary way to see what you’re made of, sort out your priorities, and decide who you want to be.
I was so surprised to learn that we don’t ever stop loving someone we once loved because the connections are deep and the time spent and memories made remain with us for a lifetime. It doesn’t matter if the memories are good or bad, they still exist and they are part of you.
When you reject the memories, or close your heart on them, you are hurting yourself and everyone else who played a role.
Realizing this has brought me more peace than anything else. Allowing myself to accept it and continue to love has allowed me to love deeper and wider than ever before.
If you allow an ounce of anger, resentment, bitterness, or revenge to take up space in your heart for any reason, no matter how justified, it affects your ability to fully open to love in other areas of your life. These feelings must be processed and released as quickly as possible. They will poison you.
I don’t claim to know who or what God is, I never went to church so my faith is a blank canvas on which I create. But whatever form, or name, or energy that God is – I don’t question that God is a creator and is pure love
Recently, I’ve been making a conscious effort to see others through the eyes of God, as a creator and pure love. It is incredible how this perspective changes things. Where I once may have assumed people are doing the best they can, looking through God’s eyes brings a knowing.
I spend time in the mornings or the evenings sending love to whoever appears in my thoughts. Not only the people I love, but those who have turned their backs on me, or people I haven’t met.
The internal rewards for this are huge. Living in a high vibration such as love feels good. It’s expansive. You think clearer. You trust easier. And people respond differently to you.
Every 7 years we are a completely different person. The extent to which you change is up to you. But in order to keep evolving and becoming better it’s important to keep moving forward.
The last 7 years have taught me more than any other 7 year stretch of my life. While I could have made better choices along the way… if I look at myself through God’s eyes I know without question that I have done the best I could.
And that’s a peaceful easy feeling.