There were people who gave me a run for my money when I was young. If I would cut them out of my life, that same personality would show up in another person, over and over.
I could see the pattern and mom and I would joke, oh here is “so and so” showing up again.
The one personality would show up even in the horses I was around.
After time and much frustration and usually some tears, somehow unconsciously I would learn what I needed to learn and that particulr type would stop showing up.
Now that I’m older, I pay more attention and I am learning and consciously retaining what I learn from these difficult relationships.
Reactive people can teach you crazy conflict resolution.
Opinionated people can teach you to firmly believe in your own truth.
Pushy people can teach you how to firm up your boundaries.
These types were my main triggers, and they would show up over and over again.
Until I learned that we see people how we are, not as they are… I couldn’t even seek out people with the qualities I wanted. I just assumed everyone was like me inside, a non confrontational humanitarian who wants the best for everyone around them and is willing to sacrifice for others.
So now that I know that’s not true, I am much more discerning about who gets into my inner circle.
This has created so much more peace in my life.