A horse learns by the release of pressure. You ask them to do something by pulling on a lead rope or a rein, and when they do what you want you release the pressure and quit pulling. When your timing is perfect, they learn quickly because they are always searching for the release.
When I worked with the sheep and the dogs I wasn’t surprised to learn this way too. Cats may be another story ?
When I consider all of the greatest life lessons I’ve learned, there isn’t a single one of them that was taught to me directly and intentionally by another person.
I didn’t learn what I needed to know from a lecture, or a punishment from someone else. The only thing I learn that was is how I feel about the other person… which is never good.
I have learned by the release of pressure from the Universe.
I have learned from my own failures and bad decisions, they have taught me what I don’t want or what doesn’t work.
I have learned from life being too hard, or too painful, or too lonely.
I learn the best when the universe is in charge…gently nudging me towards the path of least resistance and guiding me towards what feels good and right in my life.
I’ve learned I can’t teach someone else’s life lessons, even though I’ve tried. Pretty soon I’m the person doing the lecture or the punishing. Pretty soon that person has only decided how they feel about me and my lectures, not learned the lesson.
The Universe seems to be the only one who has the power to change someone at their core. To uncover unhealthy choices and underlying beliefs by applying pressure.
You run out of money, or you run out of options, or you find yourself heartbroken one too many times.
We don’t need to impose our morals, ethics and choices onto another person. We can’t teach them as well as the Universe does anyway. Allow them to be on their journey and learn the lessons they need to learn at a core level.
Somebody who wants to make the change will get it, somebody who doesn’t think the change is necessary may not be your people.
We can only love, and reflect, and stand up for what we believe in. If we are on the right path, the universe will support us in our quest.