When a marriage comes to an end, it is an extremely fragile moment in time.
Anyone who thinks otherwise is dead wrong.
Something happens energetically that makes you shaky, vulnerable, and completely unsure of yourself, and almost every move you make. Thus making you very susceptible to taking someone else’s advice, good or bad, because you really don’t know the difference.
A girlfriend of mine was given some advice, about 6 months post separation, by someone she trusted, to sleep with 10 different men before she committed to anyone.
Every time she did, she spiralled into a crazy mess inside.
By the third person, I looked at her and said, “I don’t really think this is working for you” and explained the pattern of destruction I saw after every encounter. She was surprised, but so relieved for me to let her off the hook. She couldn’t see it.
What I know for sure is, at this incredibly messy time it feels like nothing is working… But some things will work better than others. Some things will help you. Stay close to the things that make you feel a little bit better and on the right path.