Not that long ago people were generally naive. We could be smooth talked and persuaded by salesmen, we were easily inspired by empty promises, and we easily believed marketers and advertising.
The world has become small. We can easily hop on a plane and find more selection, better products, and better pricing. Social media has made the world smaller yet again with public announcements about scams and shams.
Our previous naivety was exploited enough times that our trust is gone. We don’t believe the advertising and we rarely believe each other.
As I’ve become more aware of this cycle, I continuously wonder how I can build more trust in a world where trust has been abused, and now has a massive deficit.
Trust is built with keeping your word. I said I would write everyday, so I do…even when I don’t feel like it
Trust is built with expectation. I write words that make people feel good and start their morning with a warm heart.
Trust is built with consistency. If I show up more often than you, you begin to trust I’m always going to be here.
Those parts of trust are relatively easy to accomplish, you just do it and over time it’s proven and accepted.
The deeper level of trust is more difficult because it has been eroded so many times. We live in a society where it’s most common for someone to act in their own best interest first.
In order to break those beliefs, complete transparency is imperative. Our society has grown incredibly savvy to hidden agendas with selfish intentions. In order to be transparent, we have to be vulnerable. We can no longer hide behind secrets, feelings of shame, or manipulation.
We can no longer afford to pretend to be someone we aren’t, feel something we don’t, or hide behind false pretences. We need to really understand and accept that we are enough, fears, insecurities, shame, and weakness included.
Vulnerability is at the crux of every important relationship, every connection, and all things that matter. It’s absolute truth telling.
It’s one part sharing your hidden agenda, and another part sharing what fear is driving your hidden agenda.
It’s understanding your own motivation, ego, thought process, feelings, and insecurities, and accepting our own imperfections. It’s imperfection that makes us human, and since we are all human, we connect through imperfections.
I encourage you to consciously start building more trust in the world. Look for deeper truths, and then find ways to share it in all of your relationships.
I am always surprised when I share a real human weakness, that feels like shame or weakness…and it draws people closer.
As a society we are craving real people, real emotions, and real experience.
Let’s be more real.
Let’s change the world by being more of ourselves and a lot less perfect.
Let’s shine that kind of light on ourselves, and give permission for others to do the same… then we can start building a world where trust is commonplace because we know the truth from the start.