We all like the feelings of power and status, and we all want to be seen. I’m no exception. I like classy people and I aim to learn the social etiquette of being classy.
It is important to be aware of how our ego shows up because they will get in the way when we try to level up. When I start feeling insecure my ego takes over. I like to think quick, be witty, and outsmart other people, and I will do this at the most inappropriate times. Never let the ego drive, it’s a troublemaker.
I have learned that classy people have a refined and beautiful set of manners. They are humble and curious about others, they go out of their way to extend grace during a conversation with someone. They rarely interrupt each other, they listen intently and they never belittle. They appreciate others. Classy people don’t try to outsmart, out think, or play “gotcha” in a conversation, they are constantly building trust and trying to help the other out, even in the most subtle ways.
You might be able to see where I run into problems. When my ego takes over I’m a hot mess, but learning self love and compassion has been helpful. You can get out of the spiral of embarrassement a lot faster if you are kind towards yourself when you mess up.