There are some things we do intuitively, without consciously knowing what it is we are doing.
Some people can play music this way, some people can draw this way, I have a friend who learned to help horses with body issues this way.
For me, it was riding horses.
15 years ago I met a young horse trainer that had taken on the challenge of teaching how to use your energy to communicate with horses from the ground and on their back.
The language was foreign to me, but the concept was very real and assimilating them was more challenging than you would expect.
When your brain gets involved in something it wants to take over and things get worse before they get better.
There are so many benefits to cognitively understanding the theory behind the practice.
Eventually I started to put the two pieces together.
Once I had the framework I was able to apply what I had learned on the back of my horse to life, and that’s when things started to get interesting.
Everything with a horse happens through feel.
How something feels is connected to an energetic frequency.
Anything that makes you feel inspired, energized, delighted, loved, or full of joy have a high frequency and things that feel heavy, burdened, or constraining, have a low frequency.
Like all things there is a spectrum full of nuance in between the two.
The volume or intensity level of the frequency also matters, by that I mean how big or small the feelings are.
No matter what frequency level you are operating at from joy to anger, if you come at a horse with energetic volume turned up high you will scare him, and if it’s turned down too low, he will ignore you… so will most people.
Through the years the awareness of how things feel has become my North Star.
Everything, everyone, every experience and every situation has an energetic frequency to it.
I try to always move towards what has a high frequency and feels good.
Language is a big one. It’s important to use words that feel good. There is a huge difference between the words “f@$& no!” and “heavens no!” although they both get the point across.
The first time I heard someone use ‘heavens no’ I giggled because it’s sweet and endearing but also quite expressive if the volume is turned up…. turn the volume up on ‘f@$& no’ and it’s offensive.
I chatted with someone recently who used a lot of the F-word in conversation and I ended up feeling like he was immature and unrefined…I moved away from it.
There is a huge difference between eating your vegetables and eating junk food, or drinking water versus alcohol.
Garbage in, garbage out. Your input directly affects your output. I still eat a bit of junk food, but now that I’m aware of it makes me feel, it’s very easy to moderate it.
It’s invigorating to challenge yourself and move out of your comfort zone, its mundane to always play it safe.
My year to be brave has been fun, and so rewarding. I’m on a constant adventure learning new things and accomplishing something. Showing up to see what happens is fun.
I have listened and read a bunch of Abraham and the law of attraction, it resonated with me because most of their message is around moving towards what feels good.
I think it’s the key ingredient to a happy life. It’s hard not to be happy when everything you do and surround yourself with feels good, it’s how your heart communicates to you.
And as Abraham always says, “the better it gets, the better it gets!”