Fear of failure is such a widespread term it’s almost become cliche.
It’s not a fear I felt like I related to… but I know it’s very real for a lot of people. Looking back, maybe I would have made better choices if I was afraid to fail.
I usually enjoy trying new things and experiencing life…if things don’t work out or “fail”, there would be no harm done.
I just realized the other day… I get freaked out by the consequences that come from failure.
For example…Try a new business idea and see if it works or not… no problem. If it doesn’t work that’s ok, but the part that would hold me back is trying to rebuild from sunk and lost money.
My life experience in that department has been less than stellar because we never were able to rebuild, we just kept sinking.
Another example…I didn’t view my marriage as a failure when we separated, but the aftermath/consequences were horrendous. A new relationship to me would be fine, but choosing the wrong person means breaking up…and the consequences of the break up are a bit terrifying.
So it has left me wondering… does the fear of failure itself come from what other people will think? Does the fear of failure come from a deep seated belief about yourself not being competent? Or is everyone like me and fear the consequences of the failure?
I would love to hear your thoughts…