We work so hard to avoid emotional pain, and while that works for a short time, it’s not a long term solution.
The only path to true long lasting healing is to become friends with our pain, to look it in the eye and understand where it really comes from.
If we discover why it’s there, dig around and find our triggers, pain points and learn why we do what we do, we find the truth of why we feel the way we are feeling and the pain magically dissipates.
I used to blame the other person for not being there when I needed them, for not accepting me when I felt like an outsider, for betrayals, my hurt feelings and their indifference towards me.
When I discovered that everyone battles in their own way with their own triggers, I realized that I am the only one who can heal mine, and handing someone else that responsibility was giving away my power.
There are so many layers.
Healing one spot doesn’t heal them all, but slowly over time and bit by bit, the pain begins to subside and is replaced with true love, joy and purpose in life.
The energy that used to be used in a continuous circle of avoidance, is now used in creation of a life worth living.
It’s not an easy or short term journey, but it’s a rewarding a long lasting one.