I am ok with being asked a zillion questions everyday. It’s part of my job, and lots of days the door is revolving all day long with a new person and a new question. This typically doesn’t bother me.
If one person asks me a question that triggers me, I might try to squash the uneasy feelings. As the day goes on and I’m being asked more questions, my knee jerk reaction might be to stop all of the questions and the story in my head might be “I can’t get my work done”.
I probably can’t get my work done and that is typical with my revolving door.
But the real truth is once I’ve been triggered by something, I’m not ok, and all I want to do is hide in my office doing my paperwork.
There are all sorts of triggers when you work in a family business. (The good news is, we do pretty well at family dinners and holiday gatherings because we are clearing all sorts of issues all of the time and now have a pretty healthy relationship with each other.)
It never helps to hide from it, squash it, or run from it. If you squash it, and pretend you aren’t triggered, you are asking for it to resurface again and it will probably do so at a very inopportune time.
It’s always better to take a few moments to understand your triggers and why you’re feeling the way you do.
Once you bring light to why you felt so strongly, you will feel better. Light heals, and understanding helps you make better, less reactionary, choices.
Next step is the underlying beliefs that cause the trigger.
Added perk? You will be triggered less often and understand others better. This creates healthier relationships.
It’s not fun, but it’s all worth it.