Young and naive I used to put my trust in everyone.
I didn’t have any checks and balances for myself to figure out who the “good guys” were and who the “bad guys” were, I just assumed everyone was good.
In the last few years I have taken a huge interest in defining the types of people I am going to put my trust in to.
Here is what I’ve learned so far…
People who care and want to be genuinely good people have an underlying promise to be kind, honest, generous and empathetic… it’s not overdone and it’s never to their own detriment.
Without consistency there isn’t trust.
In order to be consistent they have clarity and strong enough boundaries to keep themselves operating at a level that allows them to always deliver.
They respect themselves as much as they respect you – an important piece of the puzzle I never used to understand.
When they show up, they do so with their whole heart because their heart is whole. Their heart is whole because they look after it. They look after their heart because they understand they can’t show up fully without it.
These are the only people who earn my trust now. Everyone else gets my trust in varying degrees and at various levels.
It is a high expectation and it is such a joy and a relief to find someone I can fully trust… it’s rare.
When I think about the kind of person I want to be… this is it.
I want to be this kind of trustworthy.