Nobody wants to be around a complainer, so I mostly kept my complaining about my life to myself.
I thought I had to take the good with the bad…some elements of life were almost always good, and some elements were almost always bad. I thought that was the balance.
But trying to turn the bad around, I gave up so many parts of myself for everyone else that I felt lonely, incomplete, and unhappy.
I could turn my attitude around with gratitude, but that still didn’t change the parts that were bad… they were right there in my face, larger than life all of the time, and I strongly opposed them.
The part I didn’t understand while I was in the middle of it, was that taking the good with the bad isn’t supposed to be like that.
Life is supposed to be good and sometimes there are hiccups and bad things happen.
You take a 2 week holiday and end up sick for 2 days, or you drive a great car that breaks down for a few weeks. Maybe your amazing partner gets sick or hurt and you have to pull their weight for a while, you love your job but have to take an assignment that isn’t your favourite.
I think this is what the general scheme of life should look like.
Sometime people reject you, betray you, lie to you, or leave you and it hurts… but if it’s a hiccup to an otherwise great life… then you have to take the bad with the good.
That is very different than what I had going on.
When there was a part of my life that was almost always bad for me, it detracted from the good. It overshadowed so many of the great moments and lots of times I would miss them altogether because the bad parts took too much of my attention.
I felt trapped which put me in victim mode. I had lost my power to live life the way I wanted and there was always an undertone of darkness.
I didn’t know the difference while I was living it, but a compromise in one area affects every area.
I am now so blessed to love the life I’m in. Instead of the overshadow on good things, I have enough light to brighten up the hiccups.
This is a good place to be.