Our life is an energetic space.
What we fill that space with is a reflection of what we believe and what we choose, and that is a match to who we are.
When you let go of anything from your life (job, relationship, volunteer position, empty nest), you open up a space. Sometimes the Universe opens that space for you.
If you run from the pain and emptiness, you will refill the space out of fear. And you end up in another situation that isn’t right for you or leading you to your highest expression of yourself
You can, and absolutely should, make a conscious decision about how to fill that empty space.
Take a moment and assess… what needs were being fulfilled, and which needs weren’t being fulfilled before you fill the space again. How was it serving you, and what was missing.
When you know which of your needs were being met, and you are aware of what needs you want to meet, then you can make new choices that improve your life, rather than continuing in the same cycle.
But first you have to be brave enough to sit with the hot loneliness of empty space, in order to figure out exactly how you want to fill it again.