Hindsight is 20/20.
Looking back it’s easy to determine, but in the midst it’s hard to know.
Did you make the wrong choice?
Did you marry the wrong person?
Did you start the wrong business?
Did you take the wrong job?
It’s so easy for all of us on the outside to speculate on someone else’s life.
We can see someone who can’t discern the difference between people who love them and have their back, from the ones who don’t.
But how do we know when it’s us?
I could easily go back through major decisions in my life (and some bad mistakes), and make better choices now.
There were easier paths.
There were good people I left behind.
There were opportunities I didn’t take.
The were distorted versions of love and reality and lack of clarity that weighed in on my choices.
But with every choice I learned.
Every choice that doesn’t work out teaches you what you don’t want.
Every person who comes into your life helps you figure a part of yourself out.
It’s a good sign if you feel like you made a wrong choice in hindsight.
That means you learned something, that you evolved, and you know more now than you did before.
The good news is there are no wrong choices as long as you keep learning.
Once you decide it’s not serving you, no longer working for you, or something you just don’t want in your life, you can let it go and start over.
The key is to make this decision based on what’s right for you, not someone else.
The next step is to make a new choice to see what the next right thing for you could be.
“As you become more clear about who you really are, you’ll be better able to decide what is best for you – the first time around.” – Oprah Winfrey