You are dispensable. Make no mistake about it. This was a tough lesson for me, and I learned it in the most heartbreaking way.
I used to believe my kids needed their mom. I didn’t take them for granted, I loved being a mom and I was the best mom I knew how to be… but I was wrong, they didn’t need me. My oldest son has managed just fine without a mom for the last 4 years and he is doing great. He didn’t need a mom.
Children grow up on the streets, in orphanages, in foster homes, and with all sorts of dysfunctional parents, and they still grow up… even without a mom.
Would it be better for all of the children to have a warm loving family with 2 supportive parents? Yes. But they don’t need them.
Your family will carry on without you if they must.
Your workplace will be ok without you if you go.
The committee you volunteer with will get along without you if you quit.
The world will turn still turn when you’re gone.
You have this moment to make a difference in all of the relationships, places, and work you care about. It’s better if you show up and give us all you’ve got.
We may not need you but if you care enough to do your best, we will miss you when you’re not there.