Before anything you need to define what you want.
Sometimes the way you arrive at what you want is by first figuring out what you don’t want.
No matter how you get there, you need to put a stake in the ground and decide what you want.
Once you get that ideal figured out then break it down.
What is the most important?
What can you compromise on?
What doesn’t actually matter.
As you read this I bet it sounds easy. But can you really define it in your mind?
Clarity always takes effort.
The good news is that other people don’t want the same thing you want in the same way. So by getting what you want, you aren’t taking from someone else.
But first you have to know what you want.
If you both are contributing the usually you can both have what you want and be better off for it.
You have to be honest about what you want. Without that you will reject everything that comes your way.