I find mirrors of ourselves with other people fascinating.
Whoever designed this function really must have had their work cut out for them, because it’s not easy to understand.
I’ve been watching and studying mirrors for several years to learn how they work, there’s a few things I’ve discovered.
When someone is triggered by you or another person and starts blaming or accusing them of something – usually the original person holds the trait.
Likewise, if you find yourself angry and calling someone greedy, arrogant, dense, or anything else… it would serve you well to look within yourself to see where it exists in you.
This confused me for the longest time. I understood that sometimes other people actually are greedy, arrogant or dense. How was I supposed to be able to know if it was me, or them?
Here’s the secret.
If it didn’t exist within you, you wouldn’t recognize it in another.
Once you understand how those traits live inside of you and you are humble enough to admit it… you will consciously recognize the same traits in others instead of react to them.
Instead of becoming angry and taking it personally that someone is arrogant, you will be able to recognize it and understand it as arrogance.
The same is true for putting people on a pedestal. Once you recognize the brilliance that is within you, you will also recognize it in others and you won’t need to place them on a pedestal anymore.
If you find yourself putting people on pedestals and then feeling let down when they fall off, it’s a sign that you aren’t recognizing your own brilliance.
The more clearly we see and understand all aspects of ourselves, the more clearly we see and understand all aspects of others.
The more we understand others, the less control they have over us, and the emotional rollercoaster we are riding begins to level out.