I have the sweetest nail lady.
She’s quite young and has a elementary aged son.
She has been separated from her husband almost a year ago now. From her stories, it seems as though it’s been awful and he’s been unkind.
I think divorce is always awful, don’t you?
Society seems to think people give up too easy these days. That people don’t push through the hard times and aren’t committed. That marriage vows mean nothing.
I think divorce takes guts, like real truth bearing, imperfect sharing, we couldn’t make it work, throw this plan out the window, what sbout the kids, start over, be brave, kind of guts.
Nobody gets married thinking and hoping it’s only going to be short term.
It’s so hard to admit defeat. It’s gut wrenching to throw in the towel.
It’s devastating to let all of your dreams you had together, fall away.
It’s awful to be scorned by someone you once loved so much…. And it’s heart shattering to be snubbed by their family.
But my nail lady is enduring it all.
She put up a dating profile on tinder and found a new boyfriend.
I asked her, “is he really great?”
She replied, “he’s ok.”
I don’t know the ending of her story, but I wanted so bad to plead with her (kind of like I want to plead with everyone these days) “don’t settle now! Not after all you’ve been through. Were you so brave and went through all you have gone through, just to tie up your time with someone who you only feel is ok?”
We all have different stories. We all have different hardships and trials. We all have been through a lot.
For me, there have been and still are so many different hardships… Financial hardships, bad friendships, an ugly divorce, parenting failures… But oh I learn so much every time…
Let’s not go through all we have gone through and then fill our time with “ok”.
What if we miss amazing because we are too focused on ok?
We haven’t gone this far to only go this far.