You need a person.
Someone you know has your back, someone who knows and cares when you aren’t ok, someone who will be there when you need them the most.
Your person helps you remember who you are when you’ve forgotten and think you’re not enough. They will raise you back up.
Your person loves you and loves the people you love just because you love them. No matter what you choose you have always chosen the right thing in your persons eyes.
Your person is there for you, with you, and beside you all of the time… even if they aren’t physically present.
This person never has fun at your expense, calls you down, shuts you down, or takes more than you have to give. They will call you out, but they never stop loving you.
This person may or may not be your spouse and they may or may not be part of your family. There aren’t any rules about where this person comes from.
But you need a person, and you need to know who your person is, and it’s helpful if they know they are your person… even if you never say the words (but it’s good to let them know).
You get to choose who your person is.
And once you have that one person, you can do all of the hard things in life because they will pick you up every time you fall down.
If you’re lucky, really really lucky, you can have more than just one person.