The patterns you have will reveal the most about your conditioning.
What has been consistent in your life?
Maybe you always feel like a victim, or maybe you always choose someone emotionally unavailable.
These choices don’t make you a failure, they are trying to show you something about yourself.
Often they are showing you your beliefs about yourself, and about love.
When you are afraid of your choices, or when you beat up on yourself for the choices you’ve made, you don’t ever get to the heart of why you made those choices.
So look for patterns in your life. Not for punishment, but for insight. You will learn a lot about yourself if you ask better questions about why those patterns exist.