I see so many people attached to their story. And it keeps them from moving forward in life.
We tell stories about who we are, what we are capable of, our health, our children, and our work.
And those stories are so strong, that instead of questioning them we repeat them, and not only do we repeat them to ourselves, we project them on to others… especially the people we love the most.
These stories originate in our childhood. If we were harshly punished for our mistakes, we learn to punish ourselves. We were rewarded with less punishment when the adults around us saw that we “cared”, and the only way to show that was by angst and anger.
In the back of our minds we wonder… what will it say about us if we are compassionate towards our shortcomings and forgive ourselves easily? Will people think we didn’t care about our mistakes?
Telling a new story is scary because the people around us have bought into the old story and they constantly reinforce it. We don’t know how things will turn out, and we don’t have the answers when we are asked.
It is hard to change our story because we think its true and we have all sorts of evidence to back that up. But the more we hang on to the evidence, the less we can see the evidence of another story that is lingering in the background.
You have to own your role, be brave enough to try things that might not work, have faith in the unknown, and let go of what other people perceive.
You don’t have to change your story, its easier to keep the same old one you’ve always had.
But if you don’t change your story, you can’t change your life.
What story are you telling yourself?