Somehow we all end up with childhood wounds no matter how hard our parents tried to protect us
We need to work to heal them and move past them, or we will continuously be recreating these scenarios throughout our life because we feel comfortable in the roles we have always played and we have learned that is love.
This is why the child of an alcoholic usually marries someone with an addictive personality.
The child of an abusive parent ends up with a spouse or boss who is abusive.
The child with an emotionally unavailable parent marries someone emotionally unavailable.
If you don’t work to heal and understand yourself, why you react and do what you do, you will stay stuck in the patterns and cycles you have already lived…and then pass those down to your children.
Reading, watching, listening, and then processing in silence and writing are the ways I’ve learned to first understand myself and then to heal.
Once you begin to know yourself, you can start to create the life you want and move beyond the painful patterns of your past. What a relief that becomes.
Sometimes I have to wait until I’ve fallen into the ditch to figure out what’s going on or going wrong… but I have found the more I uncover, heal and understand myself, the more I can do my inner work before catastrophe hits.
We are complicated and there are so many layers… I don’t know if we ever finish this journey… so make it a treasure hunt because you’re going to be in it for the long haul.