I have put a lot of energy into helping other people in my life.
Some of it was genuinely for the good of the other person, and some of it was because I’m avoiding what’s happening in my life.
I have been known to focus on someone else’s problems instead of my own. It’s just so much easier to see what’s wrong in someone else’s story, and it’s so much easier to tell someone what to do rather than do it yourself. But over the years I’ve learned that you can’t make the change for someone else. You can offer them information, give them feedback, and encourage them when they are trying.
But you can’t do it for them
My time is much better spent becoming the best version of myself that I can. Which means making change inside of me.
And in order to make change inside of yourself, you have to do things differently.
If you are a slow starter, then start acting immediately.
If you over think, start acting without thinking.
If you are reactive, learn to practice pausing before acting.
Sometimes we need to go to the complete opposite action in order to come back to centre. That’s ok! Once you know both sides you can balance it out.
But if you are going to keep doing things the way you’ve always done them… your life will stay like it is now.
That’s not how we are wired. We are wired for progress.
So in order to progress, you’re going to have to do it differently. Don’t worry though, if it doesn’t work out (it will work out) you can always go back to doing things like you are now (but I’m pretty sure you won’t want to)