I have lost friends along the way.
Some of those lost friendships are due to my own insecurities, closed hearted decisions, and choices I wish I hadn’t made.
Some have been lost because of others.
I wish I could take everyone with me on my journey. But some won’t come. Life is dynamic and ever changing, but there are times you will miss the old days.
And although this is how you feel, it doesn’t mean you should go back.
As you start to make choices to improve and find less painful ways of living, you change.
It might surprise you to realize that your journey of change isn’t just about you.
You will be improving, finding healthier ways of operating and relating to others.
And this will threaten others and it will push some people away. It will make others angry.
And some people will celebrate you.
When you decide to unapologetically make change for the better, those close to you might resist it.
That’s ok, they have their journey too. You can’t let it stop you.
But without knowing it, you will inspire those who are watching you.
Sometimes just seeing someone else do something we want to do gives us permission to do the same. And you will be giving someone else permission by choosing to improve your life.
For every one person who doesn’t support you, there are ten who will.
They will celebrate you when you decide to do it, and they will celebrate you when you get there.
I am one of them. I celebrate you.
If you need support to improve your life, I’ll be cheering you on.
If you need encouragement to do hard things, I’m all in.
I know it’s not easy.
I know you will lose relationships, let go of old comfortable habits, and sometimes feel like you are alone.
But on the other side there are new relationships, habits, and connection.
I want that for you because I know how much better it is.
When you start to feel the slow burn of change in your life, keep moving forward. It gets better, I promise.