I’m not sure I ever really figured out the problem.
I was so busy doing damage control I couldn’t see the damage. I didn’t want to blame anyone else so I became over responsible and constantly tried to figure out how I could fix it.
It’s an interesting thing how you can’t see the forest for the trees sometimes…tunnel vision is dangerous.
I finally figured out that kindness does matter… but some people take advantage of it.
Yes, everyone is different, and we all navigate through this world differently. But there is a framework of morales, ethics and socially acceptable behaviour that everyone can follow.
I chose people to be in my life who were chipping away and deconstructing my framework instead of helping to refine it and build it stronger.
But I couldn’t see that and years later I am still unravelling that.
“Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure you are not, in fact, surrounded by jerks.” – @debihope
The hard part for me was figuring out who the jerk was with tunnel vision.